It’s Time to Say Goodbye

It’s Time to Say Goodbye

The door shuts behind me as I say my goodbyes to the home I have created for the past four years. Goodbye to friends. Goodbye to downtown living. Goodbye to popular Portland.

Over the past few weeks I have received emails and personal questions asking “Are you scared about moving and leaving everything here?” or “How do you know this is the right thing to do?”

The simple answer is “Yes and I don’t.”

I think about it everyday. I left a job that paid me full benefits, vacation time and a steady income. I left a city that has energy, great food and an accepting group of people (Keep Portland Weird). I left my home.

It is hard and I don’t know if this is the right thing to do but I am looking to put my passion before my comfort. I am looking to stretch my comfort zone and reach more people. I am looking to grow my business and speak more often.

Ryan and Chelsea Avery

Our apartment the day before we moved.

I wouldn’t be able to do that if I stayed in Portland. I have to move.

A speaker once taught me “If you change your surroundings, you change your opportunities.”

It is time for me to create new opportunities for my family, my business and myself.

Moving away from comfort, friends and home has been one of the hardest things I have done. As I pulled out of my driveway this morning I was reminded of a few things.

Everything Is Temporary: Nothing is forever. Change is guaranteed to happen. Enjoy the moment you have right now. Enjoy the people you are next to or the person you are waking up next to.

Everything fades. If you are in pain, it will pass. If you are struggling with heartache, loss, failure, confusion, or are filled with happiness, excitement and joy, remember everything is temporary.

We only get one life so live it. Enjoy it.

Appreciate every breath because, one day you will have to pull away from your home whether you make the decision or someone else does.


I just gave a speech at a youth seminar and an ambassador asked me to sign her insulin pump! Um... AWESOME!

I just gave a keynote at a youth leadership seminar and an ambassador asked me to sign her insulin pump! Um… AWESOME!

Go For It: How long have you wanted to write that book? How long have you wanted to be a speaker? How long have you wanted to start your own business?

How long have you wanted to have your dreams come true? Go for it. The world deserves to see your talents in action. We deserve to see you use your potential. A question I get is, “how do you accomplish things so fast?” I don’t.

Chelsea and I dedicated an entire year of our life to winning the World Championships. We then took another eight months to plan for this day to come. We didn’t just make an irrational decision. We planned. We wrote out SMART goals. We saved up money.

We then planned some more. Eventually we came to a spot where we could make a decision to go for our dreams. Now, we are working harder than ever.

I remember the day after I won the World Championship and after thinking I had put all of my sweat, blood, tears and energy into training my mentor Randy Harvey said “Congrats, now get ready for the real work to begin.”

He was right. If you want to go for your dreams, go for it; just know it will be a lot of work.

Leaving Oregon with a packed car!

Leaving Oregon with my wife and only what could fit in our car! TX, here we go!

Saying Goodbye Is Never Easy: There have been some rough patches in my life. The week after I got married I lost my job. People and pets have died. My parents lost their house and business my first semester of college and the list goes on and on.

Life happens and goodbyes are hard. The hardest goodbyes I have had to make are the ones I spring on myself. Like leaving a great job. Moving from a wonderful city. Saying goodbye to great friends.

Saying goodbye is never easy, but when you do it on your own accord, it gets even harder. If it were easy, everyone would do it.


We make mistakes in order to learn. We take chances. We take risks. As I posted on Facebook last week one of my favorite song lyrics is “Everyone dies, but not everyone lives.” Am I scared? Absolutely. How do I know I this is the right thing I should be doing? I don’t, but I made a plan, it feels right and I will continue to work hard to make my dreams come a reality. You should to; the world deserves your talents.

How to Be a Speaker: Remember that everything is temporary. Go for your dreams of becoming a speaker or entrepreneur by making a plan, setting goals and learning how to say goodbye. You can do this!

Question #1: If you were given $1,000,000 to accomplish one of your goals, what would you use it for?
Question #2: What did you want to be when you were a kid?
Question #3: Would you rather be a multimillionaire but hate your job or make less than $30,000 a year but really enjoy your job? 

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At age 25, Ryan Avery became the youngest World Champion of Public Speaking in history; competing against more than 30,000 people from 116 countries to claim the 2012 Championship title. As an Emmy Award winning journalist and a proud member of the National Speakers Association, Ryan uses his background in multimedia and speaking to help reach the younger generation on the importance of improving their communication skills in order to advance in their professional and personal life.

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