When you are struggling with finding your focus and perusing your passion it is important to have a mentor. I met with my mentor this morning to go over the tour, the book and my life.
I am struggling in a few areas and when we struggle we need to talk to people who have been through what we want to accomplish. They can provide relief, insight and valuable information for what you need and want.
How to find a mentor:
1) Pick three people who have accomplished what you want to accomplish and learn everything you can about them. Where do they live? What do they do for a living? Where did they get started?
2) After your research, pick the top person you want as your mentor who you feel most connected to.
3) Ask your circle of connections (online and off) if they know this person and would mind connecting you with them. If no one replies, find them online and get their contact information yourself.
4) Know exactly what you want from the mentor (Guidance to get into college, advice for how to start your business, keeping you motivated, etc.).
5) Email them and let them know who you are, why you are exactly reaching out to them and why you think it is worth their time to meet you. Make this email short, sweet and offer three times to meet for coffee or lunch.
6) Don’t be vague and don’t ramble. Most of these mentors don’t have time to pick a time and place and they wont read long paragraphs. If you know where they work or live (which you should, revisit step #1) you can provide three times with two locations nearest them for conveniences. You want to make the first meeting as easy as possible for the mentor and again that first email should be short, sweet and to the point.
7) If they don’t reach out to you, keep trying and be persistent. Let them know you are willing to work around their schedule and share why you are interested specifically in them and no one else.
8) If they do reach out and say yes, make sure to respond in a timely manner, agree on a time and place and send out a reminder email the day of, saying something along the lines like “looking forward to seeing you at (the spot) at (the time) and thank you again for taking the time. It really means a lot.”
9) Pay for their lunch, dinner or coffee. Make sure you treat them and you are there before they arrive.
10) During the meeting know exactly what questions you are going to ask them and let them talk more than you. If you two bond, let the person know and make sure to send a HAND WRITTEN (Keywords there) letter thanking them and hoping to see them again soon.
After that, let your mentorship develop. Set times that work well for you to regularly meet and keep treating your mentor as much as you can to coffee or lunch. Everyone has to eat right?
Mentors are incredibly valuable for the determination of your success. I use mine all the time and would not be where I am today with them! Everyone faces difficult times but not everyone has a mentor. If you want to lessen the load of struggle on your life, find a mentor and reach out to that person today! As always…
Question #1: What are other ways you can secure a mentor?
Question #2: What is the best advice you have received from your mentor that you can share with us?